We have investigated the charge ordering phase of the quasi one dimensional quantum antiferromagnet (TMTTF)$_2X$ ($X=$ SbF$_6$, AsF$_6$ and PF$_6$) using high fields/frequencies electron paramagnetic resonance. In addition to the uniform displacement of the counter anions involved in the charge order phase, we report the existence of a superlattice between the spin chains in the direction $c$, caused by the space modulation of the charge order. When the field is high enough, the magnetic decoupling of the spin chains allows us to estimate the interaction between the chains, $J_c<1$~mK, three orders of magnitude lower than expected from the mean field theory.