With an extended quark pair creation model we systematically study the OZI-allowed three body open flavor decays of higher vector charmonium and bottomonium states. We obtain that the $BB^*pi$ and $B^*B^*pi$ partial decay widths of $Upsilon(10860)$ are consistent with experiment, and the corresponding partial decay widths of $Upsilon(11020)$ can reach up to 2$sim$3 MeV. Meanwhile the partial widths of $DD^*pi$ and $D^*D^*pi$ modes for most higher vector charmonium states can reach up to several MeV.