New effective $Lambda N$ interactions are proposed for the density dependent relativistic mean field model. The multidimensionally constrained relativistic mean field model is used to calculate ground state properties of eleven known $Lambda$ hypernuclei with $Age 12$ and the corresponding core nuclei. Based on effective $NN$ interactions DD-ME2 and PKDD, the ratios $R_sigma$ and $R_omega$ of scalar and vector coupling constants between $Lambda N$ and $NN$ interactions are determined by fitting calculated $Lambda$ separation energies to experimental values. We propose six new effective interactions for $Lambda$ hypernuclei: DD-ME2-Y1, DD-ME2-Y2, DD-ME2-Y3, PKDD-Y1, PKDD-Y2 and PKDD-Y3 with three ways of grouping and including these eleven hypernuclei in the fitting. It is found that the two ratios $R_sigma$ and $R_omega$ are correlated well and there holds a good linear relation between them. The statistical errors of the ratio parameters in these effective interactions are analyzed. These new effective interactions are used to study the equation of state of hypernuclear matter and neutron star properties with hyperons.