We carry out an exploratory weak gravitational lensing analysis on a combined VLA and MERLIN radio data set: a deep (3.3 micro-Jy beam^-1 rms noise) 1.4 GHz image of the Hubble Deep Field North. We measure the shear estimator distribution at this radio sensitivity for the first time, finding a similar distribution to that of optical shear estimators for HST ACS data in this field. We examine the residual systematics in shear estimation for the radio data, and give cosmological constraints from radio-optical shear cross-correlation functions. We emphasize the utility of cross-correlating shear estimators from radio and optical data in order to reduce the impact of systematics. Unexpectedly we find no evidence of correlation between optical and radio intrinsic ellipticities of matched objects; this result improves the properties of optical-radio lensing cross-correlations. We explore the ellipticity distribution of the radio counterparts to optical sources statistically, confirming the lack of correlation; as a result we suggest a connected statistical approach to radio shear measurements.