Nanomechanical circuits for transverse acoustic waves promise to enable new approaches to computing, precision biochemical sensing and many other applications. However, progress is hampered by the lack of precise control of the coupling between nanomechanical elements. Here, we demonstrate virtual-phonon coupling between transverse mechanical elements, exploiting tunnelling through a zero-mode acoustic barrier. This allows the construction of large-scale nanomechanical circuits on a silicon chip, for which we develop a new scalable fabrication technique. As example applications, we build mode-selective acoustic mirrors with controllable reflectivity and demonstrate acoustic spatial mode filtering. Our work paves the way towards applications such as fully nanomechanical computer processors and distributed nanomechanical sensors, and to explore the rich landscape of nonlinear nanomechanical dynamics.