We report on systematic excitation-density dependent all-optical femtosecond time resolved study of the spin-density wave state in iron-based superconductors. The destruction and recovery dynamics are measured by means of the standard and a multi-pulse pump-probe technique. The experimental data are analyzed and interpreted in the framework of an extended three temperature model. The analysis suggests that the optical-phonons energy-relaxation plays an important role in the recovery of almost exclusively electronically driven spin density wave order.