We present an extension and revision of the spectroscopic and structural data of the mixed stack charge transfer (CT) crystal 3,3$^prime$,5,5$^prime$-tetramethylbenzidine--tetrafluoro-tetracyanoquinodimethane (TMB-TCNQF$_4$), associated with new electric and dielectric measurements. Refinement of syncrotron structural data at low temperature have led to revise the previously reported [Phys. Rev. Mat. textbf{2}, 024602 (2018)] $C2/m$ structure. The revised structure is $P2_1/m$, with two dimerized stacks per unit cell, and is consistent with the vibrational data. However, polarized Raman data in the low-frequency region also indicate that by increasing temperature above 200 K the structure presents an increasing degree of disorder mainly along the stack axis. This finds confirmation in the analysis of the anisotropic displacement parameters of the structure. TMB-TCNQF$_4$ is confirmed to be a narrow gap semiconductor ($E_a sim 0.3$ eV) with room $T$ conductivity of $sim 10^{-4}~ Omega^{-1}$ cm$^{-1}$, while dielectric measurement have evidenced a typical relaxor ferroelectric behavior already at room $T$, with a peak in real part of dielectric constant $epsilon(T, u)$ around 200 K and 0.1 Hz. The relaxor behavior is explained in terms of the presence of spin solitons separating domains of opposite polarity that yield to ferrolectric nanodomains.