3C 286 is a well-known calibrator source in radio astronomy. It is also one of very few compact steep-spectrum sources (CSS) detected in $gamma$-rays. Here, we perform a detailed spectroscopic and variability analysis and present the first quasi-simultaneous optical to X-ray spectral energy distribution in order to reveal physical mechanisms which dominate its emission at different wavelengths, and arrive at a reliable optical source classification. The first main result of our study reveals several pitfalls when applying simple broad- or narrow-line Seyfert 1 (BLS1 or NLS1) classification criteria which only look at the [OIII]-H$beta$ complex. [OIII] and H$beta$ can be dominated by the same outflow components, in which case FWHM(H$beta$) is no reliable classification criterion, and extinction by intrinsic or intervening material can make the highest-velocity H$beta$ component undetectable. After careful combination of all information from UV-optical spectra along with multi-wavelength data, we confirm that 3C 286 can be classified as NLS1 galaxy, with line properties and SMBH mass (of order 10$^{8}$ M$_{odot}$ and accreting near the Eddington limit) close to the BLS1 regime, making it an important borderline object. The quasi-simultaneous SED taken with $swift$ shows a sharp rise in the optical-UV, implying the presence of a strong accretion-disk component with EUV excess, consistent with emission-line diagnostics. Finally, we report the discovery of X-ray variability of 3C 286, plausibly dominated by jet emission, and variable by at least a factor $sim4$. This result suggests to exercise caution when using 3C 286 as radio calibrator in high-resolution radio VLBI observations.