The use of background quasars provides a powerful tool to probe the cool gas in the circum-galactic medium of foreground galaxies. Here, we present new observations with SINFONI and X-Shooter of absorbing-galaxy candidates at z=0.7-1. We report the detection with both instruments of the H-alpha emission line of one sub-DLA at z_abs=0.94187 with log N(HI)=19.38^+0.10_-0.15 towards SDSS J002133.27+004300.9. We estimate the star formation rate: SFR=3.6+/-2.2 solar masses per year in that system. A detailed kinematic study indicates a dynamical mass M_dyn=10^9.9+/-0.4 solar masses and a halo mass M_halo=10^11.9+/-0.5 solar masses. In addition, we report the OII detection with X-Shooter of another DLA at z_abs=0.7402 with log N(HI)=20.4+/-0.1 toward Q0052+0041 and an estimated SFR of 5.3+/-0.7 solar masses per year. Three other objects are detected in the continuum with X-Shooter but the nature and redshift of two of these objects are unconstrained due to the absence of emission lines, while the third object might be at the redshift of the quasar. We use the objects detected in our whole N(HI)-selected SINFONI survey to compute the metallicity difference between the galaxy and the absorbing gas, delta_HI(X), where a positive (negative) value indicates infall (outflow). We compare this quantity with the quasar line of sight alignment with the galaxys major (minor) axis, another tracer of infall (outflow). We find that these quantities do not correlate as expected from simple assumptions. Additional observations are necessary to relate these two independent probes of gas flows around galaxies.